Seeing Through Rose - Colored Glasses
In the early stages of dating there is a phase that we all probably walk through. This phase is called Rose-Colored glasses. It is when you are so caught up in infatuation and having a man pay attention to you that all reasoning and clear thinking goes out the window. We let things slide that are our core values.
This is exactly what happened to me. I was caught up in the moment and was just grateful, God answered my prayer to give me a man (or so I thought), I was blinded to some things he did that should have mattered a lot to me. looking back that was stupid, but it taught me the importance of guarding my heart.
“Stay alert! Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”-1 Peter 5:8 NLT
I am in NO WAY saying that this man was the devil. I am saying that when our hearts are not actively being guarded, the devil will weasel his way into them. My heart guard has been down and I have been tempted to do things I haven’t thought of doing for years. For those of you struggling with temptation and sin, I want to encourage you with the words of Paul.
“There is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”-Romans 8:1 ESV
I have nothing, but thanksgiving in my heart for my three-month relationship, it held many fun times and fond memories. There are advantages to dating: someone’s hand to hold, someone to bounce ideas off of. However, there are benefits to singleness, things I didn’t miss until they were gone. We are given the unique opportunity to seek God’s face in a way we can’t when we are in a relationship.
“But if from there you seek the Lord your God, you will find him if you look for him with all your heart and all your soul.”-Deuteronomy 4:29 NIV
When you find someone who makes your heart happy, without knowing it you have given them residence in your heart. Better to look for God when your heart is not distracted. You will still look for God while you are dating, but it will not be the same as when you were single.
“you will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.”-Jeremiah 29:13 ESV
The lesson I believe God has for me in this breakup is,
Singleness isn’t as bad as I thought. It’s ironic to say when I was walking through singleness all I wanted was a date. The old adage is true, You don’t realize what you have until its gone.
Singleness was good to me and I am happy to be back. My point is don’t take your singleness for granted. Once you step into the dating world, your single years may be just a memory. Don’t be in a rush to throw it away. Even through the lonely days and Friday nights without a date, singleness is fun. Your heart is focused on one thing and that is getting closer to God. You have opened a gift that few get to experience. Life is full of seasons and there will come a season where singleness is just a fond memory.