Honey, it’s time to cut the cord on that toxic relationship. This does not solely apply to romantic relationships; this can apply to friendships or working relationships. Any relationship you are in, no matter the context, should not be toxic. 

You deserve to be pursued. 

You are worthy of being loved. 

You’re giving 100 percent in this relationship and they’re giving -12 percent. 

You deserve so much better, dear one. 

Love yourself enough to let them go. It’s going to be tough. You’ll miss them. But it is okay for you to get over it and move pass it. 

You don’t have to be their personal cheering squad. 

You don’t have to wait around for them to acknowledge you. 

You don’t have to become devastated over this person. 

You don’t have to be their doormat or welcoming party. 

You don’t have to date them just because you’re friends and everyone expects it. Just because you are great friends does not mean you are intended to be romantically involved. God will place people in your life to teach and show you who and what you do and do not want in a future relationship. Take heed of the guidance of discernment you have been given. Keep becoming the woman God created you to be. 

You have to love yourself before you can love another person. Love yourself enough to let them go so you can heal and move on with your life. You have to do what is best for you. You have to do what is best for your future. You have to choose God’s best for you. 

Take steps to heal and continue moving on in life. Block their number. Unfollow their social media accounts. Only you know what it feels like when you see their face, hear their voice, or see their name pop up on your phone. Do whatever it takes to build up your confidence and become the person God has created you to be. 

You have a life of your own that God has created you to pursue for your unique qualities and abilities.

Do not allow just any person to speak into your life and make decisions for you. They may be a wise person, but only God knows your future - unless, in those rare times, when He decides to tell somebody else before He tells you... but that is the exception NOT the rule. 

It’s up to you to guard your heart. No one can guard it for you. Proverbs 4:23 NLT says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” The add-on at the end always gets me. Your heart will determine the course of your life. At all costs, it is important to guard the guiding force of your life. Trust the Holy Spirit’s guidance. Protect your heart.

Remember, God loves you, we love you, but most importantly, you should love you. 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Gracie Waldrop was born and raised in South Carolina. She recently graduated with an M.A. and is passionate about reaching people through the written word. She loves all things creative, adventurous, cold weather, Disney, and Jesus. She is also a major movie and linguistics buff. When she’s not writing or watching movies, you can find her dreaming about Disney or studying a foreign language. To read more of Gracie’s writing, you can find her blog at https://GracieWaldrop.com.